While it often doesn't seem like it, there are things you can do and focus on during your divorce to make the process less stressful for all involved. The most important of these is to focus on being calm and civil and treating your ex the same way you would treat a business colleague you had to work with on a big project. While it may seem very difficult in the moment, a little bit of kindness and understanding toward your ex during the divorce can go a long way toward getting through the process quickly.
So what does this look like in action? The most important thing is to make sure you are actively communicating with your ex. This is especially true if you have children. Don't assume that you don't need to let your ex know where you are taking the kids or refuse to allow them to contact the other parent.
Chances are both of you are used to seeing and talking to the kids on a near daily basis, and it will be a big adjustment for everyone in the beginning. Let your ex know your plans and make sure he or she knows when the kids will be available to talk, such as a few minutes before bed.
Even if you don't have children, communication is key. Respond promptly to your ex's emails or texts as long as they have to do with the divorce itself, and do your best to be reasonable and make fair compromises. There are no winners in the divorce process, no matter how much you get in the settlement. An attorney can help you better understand your options and look at any proposed settlements objectively.
Source: FindLaw, "The Divorce Process: Do's and Don'ts," accessed July 08, 2016