There is a little over a month before Halloween, two months before Thanksgiving and three months before Christmas. For people who are sharing custody of their children, the holiday season is one that can either be a challenge or smooth sailing. If you want to be in the smooth sailing group, now is the time to get plans for the holidays hammered out.
Your first stop on the planning journey has to be your custody agreement. Find out what holidays the child is supposed to spend with what parent. That gives you the basic information that you need to start getting the plans for you and your child ready.
If you and your ex still get along and can behave in an amicable manner, you can consider spending the holiday together. This would likely be a wonderful day for the child, but only if you and your ex can put the focus on your child and avoid conflict for the day.
That solution isn't the right one for everyone, but there are other options. You can work with your ex to make sure that even if you aren't there for your ex's holidays with the child and your ex isn't there for your days with the child that both parents are still part of the day. Sending a little something for your child to open from you on the holiday is one way to do this. Encourage your ex to send something for the child on your day.
If your child won't be with you on the actual holiday, you can plan to have a special celebration before or after the big day. Most children love this because it draws the festivities out even longer than what is normally possible.
There are some instances in which parents just can't come to agreements about child custody during the holidays. If there aren't guidelines for holidays in the order or if you feel there is a compelling reasons the order should change, find out your options. You might need to take action now to prevent problems later.
Source: FindLaw, "Child Custody Tips: How to Share the Kids During Holidays," Ephrat Livni, Esq., accessed Sep. 23, 2016